A LIE CANNOT LIVE, BUT ARE YOU TAKING THAT LIE TO YOUR GRAVE WITH YOU?
In most of my articles, I get on men and encourage men as well about being a good father. But I would be remiss if I didn’t touch on the topic of mothers who try to sabotage the ability of good men to be great fathers. Vindictively damaging the relationship and reputation of good men who only seek to be great fathers to their children only damage children. Unfortunately, there are mothers who live choosing to die and take to their graves the lies that they have told to their children about their father. Lies in order to sway their children to formulate bias opinion and feeling about of the man who is the first and greatest introduction to that child or of who a man is. Often a mother does this to be vindictive or to make herself look better to their children than their father. But the only thing this does is leave a child in a mental and emotional confusion because while their natural instincts tell them that this is the man that they can unequivocally trust that lie short-circuits that natural instinct. This may cause young girls to grow up with a misconception of men and a lack of trust of men because of the one man in her life that the fundamental foundation of what a man is has been put in question. For a young boy, it may leave him hating the very man that will usher him into manhood, hesitant to form a good relationship with his father he becomes content with a superficial relationship because he “Hates what daddy has done to mommy”; or at least that’s what he was told. But he too becomes confused because his natural instincts say he should love this man and wants this man to love him, and to have a father son relationship with this man. But he keeps an emotional safe distance from this man because of the lies that his mother has told and is willing to take to the grave with her. it is the lies that leave sons and daughters behind buried under their devastating effects. Unfortunately, these lies are not only told to the children but to family and friends as well further damaging whatever support system that child may have.
Fathers are guilty of this travesty of lies as well and the effects are as equally damaging to their children. But in my research, it seems that mothers engage in this act of lying at a higher percentage. But regardless of what the percentage there are, these lies that mothers tell about good fathers and fathers tell about good mothers only leave children muddled in emotional and mental confusion about those who are supposed to be their greatest support system. We are living in times when we as parents must speak positive truth into the consciousness and souls of our children; because while society is much larger than two parents at the end of the day they are whom children come to for comfort and reassurance.
Men and women were never created to be at odds with each other, even though their relationship with one another may not have worked out. Their relationship as father and mother should not be dismantled and should be given no reason to be questioned by the children who seek their love.
But unfortunately, there will be mothers who live choosing to die and take to their graves the lies that they have told to their children about their father. But Martin Luther King said it best when he said: "A lie cannot live." Simply put, something which is not true cannot continue to exist. The only problem is that it may live long enough to do irreparable damage to the children we say we love so much.
