WHO'S YOUR DADDY?

Sep 9, 2016
2 min read

Today as we look in our communities especially our inner city communities we see a lot of misguided, negative stereotypical, criminal mind youth. While all of our youth do not fall into these categories; the ones that we see are the ones who negatively affect our communities. The answer to these problems are not and has not been found in our degrees, judiciary/legal system; it has not been found in the many non-profit organizations that our society has become so flooded with. Even our religious institutions with all their good intentions have not made a significant dent in the deprivation of our youth. We have tried these directions for decades, and our communities have stayed the same. And believe it or not, it has very little to do with economics, to keep using economics as an excuse for misbehaving is like saying rich people don’t do crime.

Fatherhood is the missing link when it comes to solving the social, behavioral, communal, and economic deprivation of our youth and our communities. The distinction between a non-resident father and an “at home” father is irrelevant. What is relevant is that these fathers no matter where they live are involved in the lives of their children in a significant way? Involvement is not just being around your children or living under the same roof as your children do. Being involved is not just taking them home with you on the weakens that you have them. Involvement consist of three things:

Doing things with them
Saying things to them
Listening to them

As fathers, we must engage in physical, social activities with our children. Speaking words of wisdom to them is how we bestow to them tools to that will help them build their future. It is when we admonishing them about life challenges and circumstances that they overcome obstacles. Feeding them positive feedback, and even reading to them when they’re very young. When fathers listen to their children, their children gain the confidence that they are importance to them. It is through listening that we can administer advice that’s tapered to what they need and not draw up our own conclusions of what we think they need. Without listening to our children, we tend to miss the mark by giving them irrelevant answers to their dilemmas.

My book “WHO’S YOUR DADDY?” and my blog “FATHERHOOD” speaks to these issues and much more. I unequivocally believe that being an involved father while may be taxing at times is all but worth it. Fatherhood is a task that is not defined by economic or social status. Every man that has been part of the process of bringing a child into this world possesses the natural ability to function as a father, as an involved father. It is imperative that fathers meet this task head on as men should; for it will not only save our children from social deprivation but it will save our communities as well. “With all your imperfections and human mistakes, to them, you’re the closest thing to God.”~Excerpt from WHO’S YOUR DADDY?

WHO'S YOUR DADDY?

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